Love Myths are sometimes silly, sometimes overly romantic,
overly optimistic or way too depressing … So, why do we believe in them? Don’t
look at me – I’m not a psychologist although I do have a few theories of my
own. Mom and dad, Disney and, now, romantic movies– these love myths are pretty
much something we’re born with so giving them up completely is like the most
unromantic thing to do. Well, regardless how unromantic it sounds, the truth is
this – you are the one in charge of your love life! And, if you check out this
list of most popular love myths, you’ll understand exactly what I mean:
1. We Only Get Once Chance to Love
Once chance – one love, now excuse me but I really have a
hard time believing this. What happens if the person you love doesn’t love you
back? But, let’s explore other options as well like, oh… I don’t know… all
those people in your past that may have loved you but never had the guts to
tell you that simply because you’ve made it very clear the feeling is not
mutual. What about those people whose loved ones were taken away from them?
Yes, falling in love again isn’t easy but it’s not impossible either so I
simply refuse to believe once chance is all you get.
2. Love Is a Spark
Wait, strike that! Love is a big bang, fireworks… you know –
The whole, “ I saw him and I immediately knew that’s the man I’m going to
marry!” Well, I’d hate to ruin it for you, ladies, but this is just one of many
love myths the movie producers would like us to believe in. Sometimes that
whole shebang happens with the wrong person and sometimes the real fireworks
happen later, when you realize your boyfriend happens to be your Mr. Right as
well. Congrats to all of you who actually managed to score both and for all of
you who might be questioning your love simply because it didn’t start with the
big bang… don’t worry! If there’s something the movies have though us it’s that
not all great stories begin the same way!
3. People Who Are in Love Never Fight
Next one on my list of popular love myths is something I
like to call “Disney Syndrome” – a common misconception about love and the way
people in love should act. “…and they lived happily ever after…” sure sounds
great and it is something you can achieve if you always keep in mind it won’t
be smooth sailing all the way through. It can’t be, it simply can’t because we
are all just human beings which means that somebody will eventually get up on
the wrong foot one morning. What are you supposed to do in that situation?
Start packing? Scream “I’m breaking up with you”? Of course not! You sit
together and talk things out, you find a solution or you compromise and see
where that takes you.
4. Jealousy Is a Different Name for Love
But, my yapping about love myths won’t end here, so prepare
for the magnificent number
4 – something at least one (if you’re lucky) of your ex
boyfriends/ girlfriends has tried to pass as completely normal – Jealousy as…
well… let’s call it a different way to say “I love you”. Let me be completely
honest here– we are all at least a tiny bit insecure and which means
experiencing this feeling is completely natural. Justifying it with love, in my
opinion, isn’t as it gives this wonderful emotion a bad reputation. If you love
somebody you’d want that person to be happy, not only with you but in general
which also involves family, friends and, of course, career or school and, when
irrational jealousy starts interfering… well, that’s not love, isn’t it?
5. Love Is Saying “I Love You” Often
Don’t start laughing just yet, as you’d be surprised to know
how many people think this is one of the love facts rather than love myths! I
can’t deny, I ask my fiancé if he loves me and I tell him I love him often, as
well, but there are more than just words to back that up. Actions count waaay
more and if you really want to find out if your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you,
you should pay attention to those.
6. Love Is Passion, Romance, Attraction
Well… not exactly true which could, of course, explain why people
suddenly “grow out of love” once their relationships loses its initial
“thrill”. All these things fade out sooner or later leaving more room for
different, deeper and longer-lasting emotions such as devotion, respect and
caring.
7. It’s meant to happen
“They are a match made in heaven! It’s fate!” – this line is
often used to describe happy couples and make all “less happy” others feel like
they’ve done something to piss that “fate” off. Well, let me tell you something
– it isn’t really fate. It’s being in the right place at the right time and
following your gut. And, ladies and gents, that’s just the start – the rest of
it is hard work! Every relationship has its ups and downs, every happy couple
has been through some hard times, they had to compromise, talk, tune in with
each other… that’s just the way things go. You can’t get everything served on a
silver platter.
You know… if all these love myths were indeed true, there
would be no reason to go out and socialize. We could just sit inside all day, ordering
pizzas and random home appliances sold by our local TV Shop companies. Why not?
If things are really meant to happen, the faith will eventually send us Mr.
Right dressed as the mailman or a pizza delivery boy! LOL! Do you believe in
these love myths, ladies and gents, or you prefer taking matters into your own
hands?
